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When Relationships Get Complicated, You Don’t Have to Sort Them Out Alone

Most of my work these days centers on couples, families, and the partnerships people build at home and at work.

Sometimes, you arrive carrying conflict that keeps circling back to the same place.

Sometimes, one of you wants to separate, and the other wants to repair.

And sometimes, things are basically fine, and you simply want them to be better.

Whatever brought you here, I help people work through the interpersonal knots that arise in marriages, families, or businesses.

I also work with family subsystems where the tension lives: siblings, parents, and adult children, as well as the many other combinations a family produces.

If you want to understand yourself more clearly and live a more fulfilling life, that’s good work, too.

The Family Business Is Where My Experience Is Rare

When a family runs a business together, the legal, financial, and personal sit on top of each other.

I’ve spent my career in both worlds: clinical psychology and business consulting. That combination is uncommon, and it’s exactly what these situations call for.

Whether you’re a multi-generational family business, siblings in partnership, or a couple who works side by side, I help you separate the relationship from the enterprise so both can hold.

You get someone who understands the balance sheet and the bloodline, and how the two keep pulling on each other.

Good Therapy Has a Beginning, a Middle, and an End

I start with where you are.

Almost always, that means an assessment, formal or informal, over one to four sessions, so we focus on the issues that actually matter rather than the ones that shout loudest.

From there, we build a plan: the quick wins to pursue first and the longer work that creates lasting change.

For couples, the first session is to get to know each other and provide an overview.

Then I meet with each of you individually, and we reconvene to focus on what matters most to you both.

Often, you’ll complete a relationship assessment at home and review it together with me, so we can decide where to aim for fast progress and where to play the long game.

Therapy isn’t “set it and forget it.” Anything worthwhile requires work. What I can promise is structure, technique, and a sympathetic ear that listens to both sides.

You’ll Have a Place to Say the Hard Things

I provide a safe space to discuss difficult issues, the kind of conversations that go sideways at the kitchen table.

You’ll learn skills and techniques, practice them between sessions, and reinforce what works so the change holds after our work together ends.

I won’t promise magic or an overnight fix.

What I will tell you is that people do feel better after working with me, and my bet is that the spark you’re looking for is still there.

Meet Dr. Sirkin

About Mark I. Sirkin, PhD

Mark Sirkin, PhD

I’ve been a clinical psychologist for over 40 years.

Along the way, I’ve published many articles, taught psychology at the graduate level, and built a parallel career as a management consultant, which is where my interest in family businesses began.

I’m a Fellow of the American Psychological Association and take part in their governance, and I often present at their annual meetings. I’m also a member of the New York State Psychological Association.

These days, I teach and supervise students at Long Island University and the Family Institute of Westchester in New York, where I share offices.

I hold a PhD in clinical psychology, along with master’s and doctoral degrees, and a post-doctoral certificate in Organizational Consulting and Executive Coaching. For couples work, I’m Gottman-trained through Levels 1 and 2, and I stay current on the neuroscience and the latest methods in the field.

What people who work with me tend to appreciate is that I’m an author, an academic, and someone who believes deeply in the power of psychology to help them live better, more fulfilling lives.

Let’s See If We’re a Good Fit

Life is complicated enough. Relationships don’t have to be.

If you’d like to find out whether I’m the right fit for you, I offer a free 15-minute telephone consultation to talk it through. Let me help guide you to a better path.

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Let Me Help Guide You to a Better Path.

People show up in many ways. I start with where you are.

I listen carefully to what’s going on and to what your hopes and dreams really are. If your difficulties involve other people, I can guide you, and them, toward a more solid foundation and a better relationship.

Reach out today, and let’s see if working together is a good fit.